Self confidence is about having trust in your own judgement and your own abilities. It gives you the means to attain your full potential, becoming more of the person you want to be. It's self-confidence that allows you to feel secure and to face of an ever-changing world and allows others to feel safe in your hands.
Self-confidence is made up of a number of factors including how you present yourself to the world and how you relate to other people. Improving your self confidence can impact every area of your life, including:
- family life
- your career
- your social life
- your sex life.
Low self confidence manifests in a number of ways. You may feel:
- You will fail at everything (so you try nothing)
- You have little drive or direction (so you do nothing)
- Shy and uneasy, socially inept (so you avoid socialising)
- Inferior to others
- Useless and / or worthless
- Bitter about your (lack of) relationships.
Some people may be confident in some situations but lack confidence in others. For example, you may be confident at work but totally the opposite in social situations.
Self-confidence can be developed. Setting and achieving realistic, meaningful goals and challenging the misconceptions that undermine your self-confidence can help you become increasingly confident. However, it's important that this is done in a managed way as setting your goals too high, or setting the wrong goals, leads to failure, reinforcing the negative message, reducing your confidence.
Counselling can help by addressing the underlying causes of low self-confidence and challenging the misconceptions that reduce your confidence in yourself. Helping you set and monitor Suitable, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic and Timely (SMART) goals, counselling builds on what you can do, increasing your confidence and allowing you to try new things.
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