Every relationship has its difficulties and it can help talk with someone outside of the relationship or wider family. Doing so can help you see each others perspective and to look at things from a different angle.
Couples face all kinds of issues including:
- Preparing for marriage
- Step-parenting and blended families
- Dealing with conflicting "time clocks" or ways of being
- Coping with a new baby, teenagers or children leaving home
- Arguments, conflict or domestic violence
- Recovering from an affair, the use of pornography or Internet sex
- Sexual problems, including sexless relationships and lost libido
- Difficulty maintaining a healthy work/home life balance
- Considering ending the relationship and the difficulties this brings
- Dealing with a failed relationship
Sometimes there doesn't seem to be a specific identifiable problem, "We just don't talk any more. We seem to have drifted apart", is something many couples face at some time in their lives. No problem is to small to bring to therapy. It's often much better to come when things start to feel wrong than it is to wait until a crisis happens.
Whether your just starting out in your relationship, have been together you years, or feel your relationship is coming to a natural end, couples counselling can help you explore your situation and improve your relationship. It's not about pressuring you to stay together, or even to part, but rather aims to help you find the best possible outcome in your unique situation, whatever that may be.
How we would work
We would normally see you togeher for the first session. This gives both of you a chance to tell your story and indicate what you want from counselling and gives us opportunity to observe how you work together as a couple. We'd then see each of you individually, at least once, to get your personal, family and relationship history and any other relevant information. After that I'd continue to work with you as a couple, addressing whatever issue(s) you want to look at.
All counselling is confidential, subject to a few specific exceptions. If we see you indivisually, anything said in individual sessions remains confidential to that context unless you were to disclose something your partner did not know which would affect my ability to work with you as a couple. If something like that did arise (and it's very rare) I'd talk with you as to how we should proceed. An undisclosed affair would be an example of such an exception.
If you'd like to make an appointment, or just discuss the options, why not call us now on 0151 601 2145. Evening and weekend appointments are available and an appointment can normally be offered within a day or so.