Humanism Bypass (by Jeff Brown)

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Humanism Bypass – Boundaries (by Jeff Brown)

I was given the following quote by a friend and found it so powerful I wanted to share it here.

I did it for years. I saw glimpses of someone’s potential, their beautiful soul, their loving heart, and told myself that this was who they… truly were, ignoring all the rest. But the rest was what destroyed. The rest is where they lived most of the time. The rest was no illusion – it was them, too.

This self-destructive pattern was birthed in two places:

  1. my deep desire to see the best in my difficult parents. Not for them, but for me. I needed to believe that there was something kind and caring living inside of them;
  2. a misplaced projection from my own self-concept work. I held the belief in my own potential, as a way of overcoming the shame I carried. But I made the mistake of assuming that everyone else was just as eager to find their light. Of course, we all have glowing potential. At the core, we are all magnificent beings with profound capacities. But how many of us fully actualize it? At this stage of human development, not so many.

The trick is to hold the space for two things at once—a deep belief in everyone’s possibilities, and a deep regard for your own well-being. It’s okay to pray for everyone’s liberation without joining them in prison. Pray from outside the prison walls, while taking exquisite care of yourself. It’s okay- you can’t do the work for them anyway.

Boundaries, boundaries, boundaries… don’t leave home without them.

Jeff Brown, 2017


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